Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Mary Mary Quite Contrary

Learn something new every day.

Good advice, very true for today. In preparation for a seminar that I'll be attending today with my daughter on womens' leadership roles and empowerment, I was reading some articles and ran across a term that I either didn't know, or don't remember learning about.


The amygdala (Latin, corpus amygdaloideum) is an almond-shape set of neurons located deep in the brain's medial temporal lobe.
Shown to play a key role in the processing of emotions, the amygdala forms part of the limbic system.

In humans and other animals, this subcortical brain structure is linked to both fear responses and pleasure.
Its size is positively correlated with aggressive behavior across species.
Conditions such as anxiety, autism, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and phobias are suspected of being linked to abnormal functioning of the amygdala, owing to damage, developmental problems, or neurotransmitter imbalance.

Boy oh boy, doesn't this explain a lot about my Aspergian husband!
We had one of those "Julie can't do anything right" days yesterday. Judgement made by my spouse, not by me, by the way. I had a great day.
We spend Sunday removing 400 square feet of Brazilian Cherry hardwood flooring from a friend's newly purchased home. She is replacing all of the carpeted areas on her main floor and couldn't match the hardwood satisfactorily, so she's having all new flooring put it. There should be just enough wood to floor our livingroom.
If you are contemplating such an endeavor with an Aspergers Syndrome spouse, regardless of how strong that spouse is, DON"T. Period. Live and learn.
Regardless, we finished in just under eleven hours. What a job. I did tell Steve that we would leave the wood planks in our respective SUV's for a few days as I unloaded each piece, removed any remaining nails or staples, washed each piece with Murphys wood soap, and dried the pieces. I would then move all the furniture out of the room, rip out the carpet and pads, make sure that the floor is entirely level,  and lay down kraft paper. Next I would arrange all the tongue and groove planking  tetris style to best utilize every piece 
It's going to be a big job. Good thing I am retired; I wouldn't have time to go to work!
Okay dokey, you say, so were lies the problem?
The wood in Steve's Explorer. That was my downfall.
I folded down his back seat to lay down all the six foot planks while shorter pieces went into my Jeep. Steve doesn't drive anyone else to town where he meets his carpool to go to work. He parks his rig in town. He does not drive it until the carpool drops him off back in town and drives home. Again, alone.
Um, you say, and exactly what is wrong with that?
He forgot his thermal insulated lunchbox in the car yesterday because he 'normally' sets it on his backseat with his computer backpack. Since the wood was in the back he had to put the backpack and lunchbox on the front seat. He actually set the lunchbox on the floor instead of the front seat as he was afraid that the lunchbox would fall off of the front seat (even though the front seat is larger than the back seat area that he normally sets it on). When he grabbed his backpack at the carpool meeting spot he didn't notice his bright red lunchbox on the floor and went off without it.
At lunchtime he had go to the company cafeteria to buy lunch. He accidentally stood in the pho' soup line, which was long, instead of the salad line, which was even longer, so he was late back to work.
All my fault. Except that he forgot his lunch box by the microwave last Friday and by the front door last Monday. Not my fault. He's just very forgetful, or preoccupied, or just plain contrary.
I'd rewrite that nursery verse, but I can't seem to come up with enough words to rhyme with "Stevie"... lol 


  1. Yes, that does explain a lot and i have the same problems. I get accused of rushing him our the door so he forgets things. Huh! So what's excuse when he is leaving on his own and still forgets. Somehow i am always to blame. I pick up his things up and move them. Of course i do! LOL Just for fun, NOT. Not when im the one that will suffer his wrath if i do. Lunchboxes, wallets and glasses are the main culprits. We also did a lot of work Sun on bringing down a wall between two rooms. He started up a saw and attacked the plaster without covering anything, without shutting the doors and thus the whole house was white with plaster dust. So thick you couldnt see across the room. I am still cleaning the house room by room. When i walked in the front door and went down the back and turned on the vacuum cleaners beside him placing the snorkel of one immediately next to the blade and magic, no dust. He didnt say too much other than to complain that im never around to help. Ummm i was out doing the shopping?