In trying to learn more about my husband's Aspergers Syndrome, I routinely read blogs by other Aspergians. There was one on Theory of Mind that has really gotten me thinking.
When I'm feeling frustrated with Steve not understanding my feelings or viewpoints on different life events, I try to explain using illustrations putting him in a similar situations that I believe would help him comprehend my emotions. What I haven't ever considered about my sweet Hubby was pointed out by autisticook in a recent post.
I too am flabbergasted. When I am confused or hurt by Steve's actions, reactions, or lack thereof, it has never occurred to me that he was operating in a totally in a different dimension from me. That he has no comprehension of what I am even talking about when I try to explain.
No wonder he is often as puzzled, confused, perplexed, baffled, flummoxed, befuddled, or as flat out bewildered as I am at our differing responses to the exact same occurrence.
Once again I am reminded that NTs and Aspies really do speak different languages. That my expectations of Steve's behaviors often hinge on my own expectations of NT emotions, which he often doesn't have or 'get'.
*Sigh* Looks like I need to go reload my 'patience' bucket. Maybe even upgrade to a 'patience' barrel. The good Lord knows I need it! lol