While Steve and I muse about whether his Aspie traits are becoming more pronounced, I also have to wonder if his maturity level has been sliding downward. He seems to give in more easily to his tantrums and tirades of late. His anger management skills are close to nonexistent.
As for patience, he has none. Our thirteen year old will be in the midst of a conversation with me, but waits patiently when his dad interrupts for some trivial matter that doesn’t really need to be discussed at all. If I ask my husband to wait for a few moments, he becomes irate that I would put our son ahead of him..
Oh really, Dear?
In Audrey’s blog comment section, another Aspie said she feels younger, in part, “because of my difficulty navigating ‘normal’ adult [life], and I just feel awkward in general.”
My husband probably behaves properly (read that ‘normally’) at work, and in thecollegiate classes he instructs. I’m making that assumption based on the fact that he’s been employed by the same company for twenty-five years, and is scheduled to teach three more courses for summer term.
Richard Rowe, fellow Aspie, writes a moving letter about his own experiences with Aspergers, which he became aware of after the diagnosis of his son’s Aspergers.
Richard describes some of his conundrum:
“When I try to explain my condition to people I feel like they either think I'm making up excuses for myself or look on me as a freak or as some kind of nut case. Sometimes I feel that by telling them I have ASD I'm alienating myself, but then, if I don't tell them I will probably mess up at some stage and they will think I'm strange anyway so I figure its (sic) better to tell them on the whole, especially if I intend to try and pursue any type of friendship.
But then at times I feel quite fine about myself, I feel like it's the rest of humanity that has the problem, not me. Sometimes I too, look on myself as a freak and a nut case. But then, I'm sure I'm not, because they always say that if your (sic) nuts you don't know it, and I'm sure I am, so I guess I'm not..... Make sense?”